Keeping in touch is very essential for any relationship to blossom and grow. My post in May on Touch received a warm response from few individuals. My mentor, who is also a father-figure for me suggested me to write on the Unusual touch – Punishment touch.
Punishment touch–
The immediate thought that strikes us is of spanking, a slap, a punch, twisting the ear-lobes….so on and so forth. Often, but not always this punishment is associated with school teachers especially the middle school. But very often this behavior is purely exhibited in prisons for criminals. Whenever an individual commits a grave, irreparable mistake it is the Punishment Touch that gains terrific victory over his peace and respect. So Sad! There is no way out. But does this bring positive results every time? Maybe no. Since it inflicts pain it unleashes the negative aspect of a human-Anger, Revenge, the urge to inflict similar pain. Could this punishment touch be effective in the lives of humans?
The Positive Punishment touch – A spontaneous touch, a genuine touch.Curious to understand?
As a child at times when I would not take my books or disobey my dad, he would refuse to talk to me. It would be a punishment but without inflicting physical pain. I would retrace my path. We can fondly remember one such teacher who touched our life without inflicting pain. By his / her loving words made us realize the value of academics. This kind of silent punishment brings positive results in the lives of our close ones. The effect sinks for a long time to come. Punishing someone, but with love and care makes a lot of difference. Why raise your hand or spank a child? My mom would roll her eyes, or refuse to meet my demands in case I have faltered. It needs a lot of patience too Depression, Anxiety disorder, nervousness, emotional stress, suicidal thoughts need a touch of words, not punishment, not scoldings but care and love. If our words can touch their lives and bring back their confidence and eagerness to stay strong and confident perhaps life would be very beautiful. We would see less sad, lonely people around. But to do this, we first need to be calm, composed with a positive attitude.
Anytime imposed this punishment touch?
to someone close to you, maybe your student, your child, your husband/ wife, a subordinate or a colleague at your workplace or elsewhere? Try it.
Rather than raising your voice, be stern in expressing your requirements as a senior. Change in tone of expression helps. Your words will be magical for them and bring about the CHANGE beneficial to the surrounding. You need not present a memo when things can be done in a smooth manner. Touch someone s life, restore their confidence, the will to move ahead and look for a fresh beginning, instill the confidence, the faith in their own self. These acts of kindness come from a loving heart.
By doing this we are restoring the positive energy of Nature and nurturing Humanity. Simultaneously a positive attitude
One can practice punishment touch, with grown-ups, spouse, with elders and save relations. My next post, an extension of this will speak more.
13th December 2018 at 6:29 pm
Punishment in any case will result into an unhealthy environment and does not allow any one to grow in freedom rather grow in revenge, anger,unforgiving attitude and many other negative vibration in oneself. Therefore every work place guidance should be given to handle once own self as well as others too. Congratulation Veronica for your thought provoking articles. Wish you all success dear.
4th October 2018 at 2:43 pm
Thought provoking article. The silent punishment works with today’s generation. Sometimes to discipline we need to punish, silent punishment would be the best way for getting results.
3rd October 2018 at 8:30 pm
Thanks Veron for such a nice post.Sometimes i become very angry and slap Pravar , after few seconds i realize what i did and i think of punishing myself.Very nice article.
3rd October 2018 at 4:43 pm
Beautiful artical Veron…well written being silent really works…♥️
1st October 2018 at 12:00 pm
Thanks, Sushil. your words were very motivating. I am happy you could relate to my writing. I too as a parenting practice this touch. it helps. silence is more powerful than speaking words. only when it crosses the limit should one raise the hand but no hitting.
the next topic is an extension of this one but for a different audience.
Thanks for reading, taking time off to post your thoughts
26th September 2018 at 7:11 pm
I’ve seen the use of The Punishment Touch in countless different instances in my life. Did it produce a positive effect? Nah. It created fear, anger and often renewed stubbornness. A truly thought provoking article.
25th September 2018 at 10:06 am
Well written veron.This topic did take me back to my nawty days. The fun @ school but there have been days wen u dnt dress right to school or done sm mischief n hv got caned. There were other kids too who faced the same ordeal. Tdy we cn only pray for them as im sure tey were gng thru their own level of stress. My pa was very strict to the core n we use to p in r pants wit fear but my mom was an angel, she always corrected wit love. Though tdy as a parent i i avoid with the touch as i know it makes one rigid n stubborn. My son gets verbal corrections n he is doing pretty good. U may ask him ☺? too.
24th September 2018 at 2:57 pm
Very nice article Veron. I have experienced in my school life. So as I read ur article my mind went back to my childhood. Punishment is the most powerful provoker of violence.
23rd September 2018 at 9:32 am
Mmmm….
Wonderful as always Veron.
Thanks fr reminding of beautiful side of life that we always know BT v don’t indulge in such practice.
May ur kind effort reach out to every heart out there.
May the love spread all around.
May kindness cum into action .
Becoz as v don’t punish hard, v too will b loved by all .
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22nd September 2018 at 1:45 pm
Great Veron . Nuturing emotional pu nishments along with silenced love does really work wonders.As a human i have the right to shower my strong words of love,anger,sadness towards the betterment of my dear ones…in the process of being a mom,spouse,daughter,sister,friend,emotional support for many without tagged relationship .your words-are powerful love for the true seekers SIMPLE LIFE BASED ON LOVE.
21st September 2018 at 7:20 pm
Very nice write up even I try my level best when it comes to my boys to give a silent punishment like not talking to them.
Actually in many places silence does works can releate to the write up
21st September 2018 at 4:21 pm
Very nice..
Silent punishment is a way of making people introvert..
Raising their inner voice is more important than raising our outer voice..Nice article 🙂
21st September 2018 at 1:17 pm
Good article veron. I can vouch for this, not mny but to some of my class student’s who had lost their confidence in themselves and were in depression. And I always do so, in whatever possible ways to motivate them.
21st September 2018 at 12:56 pm
O uncle Thank you, thank you so much. for me, you are my pillar of strength. TO such a strong pillar I always come when I need strength to face the great world. Thanks for being here.
21st September 2018 at 12:41 pm
I’m glad to read that you are trying to spread the love around even when the situation is negative. I’m sure if someone practices or follows the path you have shown can live a happy life and that shall help others too. Eagerly waiting for your next edition . Thanks